Binary Happiness

For all that is out there in writing and speeches about the secret to happiness, and for all the time, effort, and energy spent on its pursuit, I don’t know that the question, “How do I know when I’m happy?” has been adequately discussed.
This is a dangerous question to ask. If, after reflection and some introspective moments, I find that the answer is no, I’ll realize that I need to make some changes in my life to continue the chase. However, the real danger in this question lies in another answer: Yes.

If the question is “Am I happy?” and my answer is “Yes.” what then? Is the chase over? Is it now all about just fighting to keep what I have? Maybe. But answering yes to that universal human pursuit does not mean the pursuit has to be over.

Another scary answer would be “Well, I used to be?” This cryptic answer reveals, or at least implies, a loss of some sort. I don’t think I used to be happy, and I’m pretty sure I’m happy now.
However, I don’t think it’s a simple binary equation. That’s the difference between people and computers. There is never a simple off/on answer.
I think I’m happier now than I’ve every been, but that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the road or that it’s all down hill from here. Every day is an opportunity to grow and become more of what I know I can and should be. That makes me closer, but I plan to never arrive and be finished.
Still, I’m not positive that it makes it happiness. What is it really? A feeling? A state of being? Something physical?
Why, with all the effort and pursuit of the secrets to happiness, is it so difficult to say what it is?

One thought on “Binary Happiness

  1. For me, happiness is satisfaction with life, is contentment with who I am today and where I am going tomorrow. It is a realization that all is well, if not perfect. It is the knowledge that I am cared for, that my dreams and passions have a purpose and an outlet, that I am making a difference. Our pursuit of happiness, however, must not supersede our longing for joy, which goes a step beyond happiness. Feeling joyful does not mean everything is hunky-dory or perfect. It does not entail a feeling of weightlessness, as if you have not a care in the world. It is the deep awareness that all is in the hands of God, and come what may, His will will be accomplished, and all will be as it is meant to be. And that can never be anything but our best good.

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